So with that being said this is what we CAN change from the above list: how we think about our children and how often they visit what we think about the weather and how to make the best of it if it snows build a snowman or go skiing (one example) we can plan our schedule to fit the "day" of the week only deal with what's IN your boat and let the rest go your PAST is exactly that, but we can think about the present before we regret it and then it becomes the PAST which we can NOT change we can NOT change other people, so you might as well get used tot he fact, deal with them or cut bait, the CHOICE is yours, of course you can always set the rules when it's YOUR home what's been said to you, can NEVER be taken back, so try as may that fact remains, but you can try and erase that memory and create a new one to take it's place your children's selection of mates is out of your control, but them again there is that reverse psychology technique that worked when they were younger, love the person, and then they think twice if you like them (of course I'm joking here)